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Jun. 8th, 2001 07:01 pmI spent the day with my friend Sarah today. We ate Indian food for lunch (which I absolutely love and haven't been able to eat because I was in Galesburg), and then went to the Rose Gardens to converse and to just stop and smell the flowers. *laugh*
We ran into Jenna and Emmi (friends of ours) at the restaurant. Emmi told me that Gary-- the guy who I talked about a few entries back, the guy with a unibrow that I went to a dance with back in high school-- raped one of her friends. That just strikes me as really frightening. I thought he was a doofus before, to be sure. But I didn't think he would do something like this.
In happier news, I found out that Pete, one of my acquaintances in high school, is now officially gay. Yaaaaaaay! Another member of our big, beautiful, happy family!
It's amazing how much I can talk to Sarah, even after a year apart in college... we're very different people in our outlooks and beliefs, but we do respect each other, and we have very similar personalities. She can understand me in a way that I think others can't, because she knows the difference between the social me and the person I really am inside.
At the same time, there are a lot of things about my life that she doesn't understand, and that could be a problem. I still don't think that she gets my bisexuality. Which confuses me-- there have been other friends of ours that came out as gay, bi, etc. and she seemed to be okay with it. But with me, there seems to be a difference. I was also trying to explain Bean to her-- how Bean identifies neither as a man nor a woman, and she just didn't get it. She thought that Bean should just "face the fact that she's a woman," and seemed to think that was a major factor in the breakup. I admit that sometimes I felt that Bean's perceptions of men and women were too narrow, and that I thought she expected things of me that I was not willing to carry out because I do identify as a woman, but I have no qualms with Bean's gender identity in and of itself. That has nothing to do with my perceptions of Bean as a person, and it was certainly not a factor in the breakup.
All in all, though, it was a good day. I really do have good high school friends. I think I'm lucky in that score-- that although I certainly want to move beyond high school, I don't feel a compulsion to run away from it.
We ran into Jenna and Emmi (friends of ours) at the restaurant. Emmi told me that Gary-- the guy who I talked about a few entries back, the guy with a unibrow that I went to a dance with back in high school-- raped one of her friends. That just strikes me as really frightening. I thought he was a doofus before, to be sure. But I didn't think he would do something like this.
In happier news, I found out that Pete, one of my acquaintances in high school, is now officially gay. Yaaaaaaay! Another member of our big, beautiful, happy family!
It's amazing how much I can talk to Sarah, even after a year apart in college... we're very different people in our outlooks and beliefs, but we do respect each other, and we have very similar personalities. She can understand me in a way that I think others can't, because she knows the difference between the social me and the person I really am inside.
At the same time, there are a lot of things about my life that she doesn't understand, and that could be a problem. I still don't think that she gets my bisexuality. Which confuses me-- there have been other friends of ours that came out as gay, bi, etc. and she seemed to be okay with it. But with me, there seems to be a difference. I was also trying to explain Bean to her-- how Bean identifies neither as a man nor a woman, and she just didn't get it. She thought that Bean should just "face the fact that she's a woman," and seemed to think that was a major factor in the breakup. I admit that sometimes I felt that Bean's perceptions of men and women were too narrow, and that I thought she expected things of me that I was not willing to carry out because I do identify as a woman, but I have no qualms with Bean's gender identity in and of itself. That has nothing to do with my perceptions of Bean as a person, and it was certainly not a factor in the breakup.
All in all, though, it was a good day. I really do have good high school friends. I think I'm lucky in that score-- that although I certainly want to move beyond high school, I don't feel a compulsion to run away from it.
