Interesting about QaF...though I suppose I'm not surprised. XD I actually can't stand shows like that...hated The L Word, etc...because to me it's just the same old shit, with added gayness, as though that makes it "edgier" or "better" or "more thought-provoking." However, never having seen QaF, I can't make that judgement on that show in particular!
I know I have to force myself sometimes to take a step back and look at my own privilege, although, having been raised with the "you're damned lucky and you should know it" line of thinking, it's not completely against my nature. XD It took me a while to realize that I face a lot of issues as a queer trans person, because I tend to float through life thinking I could never possibly be oppressed, for some reason. Even being feminist, I often felt I was somehow fighting someone else's fight, in that this oppression didn't particularly apply to me. I've discovered otherwise through the years, and it is hard, once you've got that bitter taste, to realize the areas in your life in which you are very privileged and fortunate.
((P.S. WTH IS UP WITH MPREG?? WHAT IS THE POINT??))
Nothing bad happened at TWAC, it was just interesting. I was the only male-identified person there, and the queer female-identified folks were definitely in the majority. I just noticed how it was more their space than mine, or even the other genderqueer folks'. Through no conscious intent of their own, the cisgendered female people, I felt, sort of co-opted a lot of the event. It didn't really bother me all that much, but I just found it amusing and interesting when things happened like: "Oh, let's sing this song we all know. It's Ani DiFranco." And I was like, "uhhhhhhhh....no clue."
I think I was also one of the only people there (perhaps THE only one) who had not arrived at this point in my life through some form of female lesbianism. I bypassed that pretty much entirely except for maybe a couple months wherein I discovered that that wasn't me.
There was also a highly awkward instance in which one person who preferred any pronoun except "she" was consistently, in a space of fifteen minutes, being called "she" by one of the cisgendered folk there, who would sort of brush it off with an "oops, sorry," and then immediately do it again. And this cisgendered person was certainly a very politically-aware feminist. So it was odd.
Anyway, I could probably talk forever about all of the interesting permutations of gender interaction at TWAC, but yeah...that's what I noticed. XD
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Date: 2009-07-29 07:42 pm (UTC)I know I have to force myself sometimes to take a step back and look at my own privilege, although, having been raised with the "you're damned lucky and you should know it" line of thinking, it's not completely against my nature. XD It took me a while to realize that I face a lot of issues as a queer trans person, because I tend to float through life thinking I could never possibly be oppressed, for some reason. Even being feminist, I often felt I was somehow fighting someone else's fight, in that this oppression didn't particularly apply to me. I've discovered otherwise through the years, and it is hard, once you've got that bitter taste, to realize the areas in your life in which you are very privileged and fortunate.
((P.S. WTH IS UP WITH MPREG?? WHAT IS THE POINT??))
Nothing bad happened at TWAC, it was just interesting. I was the only male-identified person there, and the queer female-identified folks were definitely in the majority. I just noticed how it was more their space than mine, or even the other genderqueer folks'. Through no conscious intent of their own, the cisgendered female people, I felt, sort of co-opted a lot of the event. It didn't really bother me all that much, but I just found it amusing and interesting when things happened like:
"Oh, let's sing this song we all know. It's Ani DiFranco." And I was like, "uhhhhhhhh....no clue."
I think I was also one of the only people there (perhaps THE only one) who had not arrived at this point in my life through some form of female lesbianism. I bypassed that pretty much entirely except for maybe a couple months wherein I discovered that that wasn't me.
There was also a highly awkward instance in which one person who preferred any pronoun except "she" was consistently, in a space of fifteen minutes, being called "she" by one of the cisgendered folk there, who would sort of brush it off with an "oops, sorry," and then immediately do it again. And this cisgendered person was certainly a very politically-aware feminist. So it was odd.
Anyway, I could probably talk forever about all of the interesting permutations of gender interaction at TWAC, but yeah...that's what I noticed. XD